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I Dropped the Ball Last Weekend!!!!

I dropped the ball last weekend. For the first time since wife and I got separated over the summer I feel like I dropped the ball with something with regards to the king.

Last Saturday was a special-needs Halloween party that we have taken the king to for the past five or six years.

And for the last three – four years we used it as an excuse to get my mother and sister and her husband and kids together. We would all go to the Halloween party together and then go out to dinner or they would come back to our house for dinner.

And this year I completely missed the email announcement as to when the party was.

As I was bringing the king to his Saturday special-needs swim last weekend one of the moms said “will we see you at the Halloween party?”

And my reaction was “oh shit that’s today”

The party was from 11 AM to 3 PM and the King has back to back activities from 1030am till 12:45pm.

So after his music therapy I took him to the Halloween party without a costume and without any other family in tow.

He had an OK time but it was definitely a quieter outing then in years past and that gave me a sense of sadness and guilt.

And let me take a step back and say that it’s not like the king always had a completely amazing time at these Halloween parties. He had some good years and some ok years.

However, as I said before it was just a good excuse to get the family together revolving around a fun activity.  And because I dropped the ball we had no plans after the Halloween party and so the king & I spent a quiet late afternoon/ evening at home alone.

The king seemed totally fine & happy about this.  He was content to watch tv and/or play on his iPad for hours, but I felt guilty.

So, basically, for the first time since the separation I feel like I dropped the ball. And my brain tells me it’s not gonna be the last time….

That’s all I’ve got for today.  Just a quickie blog post.


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Frank Campagna

I’m a 48 year old neurotypical dad with a 14 year old son with severe, non-verbal autism & epilepsy. I created this blog to rant about autism & epilepsy while celebrating my son who I affectionately call “the king” :-).

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6 People Replies to “I Dropped the Ball Last Weekend!!!!”

  1. Getting the family around a fun activity is important.

    And that they were asking around it at the swim!

  2. dont beat yourself up.I hear you…you had a tradition and you forgot to make the plans..we all do it..sounds like the night was still a good night. Just feel your feels and on to the next event.Your a great dad all in all. WE all eff up once and a while.

  3. I feel like I drop the ball all the time with my son, he for and non verbal, because of this here will play alone in his room for good periods of time so there are so many times when instead of spending that one on one time I'll watch a show or read a book, don't feel bad it happens but like the others said it's the things we do right that out number three times we drop that ball. Head up bud, we can do this.

  4. Liz

    But it worked out and the king was calm.. it was just different and sometimes different is good. Sounds like you dropped the ball and then picked it up quickly.

  5. Just remember you don't get Frequent Flier miles for guilt trips. And if this is your first time dropping the ball as a parent in 14 years, that's incredibly impressive. Cut yourself a little slack and have that quiet family dinner during your next weekend with your son.

  6. Angela

    I am not a single mom, and I am not a parent of a special needs child….but sometimes I drop the ball too. It happens. Don't beat yourself up over it. We all find ourself in that situation from time to time. It's the things that you do do, not the things you don't that count