My Thoughts On Jillian McCabe & Kelli Stapleton… I Want To Feel It All!
November 7, 2014
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November 7, 2014
So here are some of my thoughts…
In fact, news reports are now saying that Jillian McCabe
(from NBC News) had been “hearing voices” and was
supposed to see a doctor to adjust her medication the next day”
Relatives say she had been suffering from mental illness for
more than two years and snapped after a series of challenges: caring for a
severely autistic, non-verbal child; her husband’s life-threatening illness;
and the death of her father.
“We learned just yesterday that Monday morning Jillian
expressed to her counselor that she was hearing voices again,” Andrew
McCabe said. “The counselor suggested that her medication needed adjusting
and set an appointment with a doctor, for the next day.”
But her relatives say that while she was overwhelmed and stressed out by her situation, the real problems began after her husband, Matt, fell ill with a mass on his brain stem that landed him in intensive care and left him with a form of multiple sclerosis.
The day before he was supposed to come from the hospital, McCabe’s father died — and she went into a downward spiral, the aunt said.
Who knows if maybe one other positive thing had happened to her that day, none of this would’ve
And I believe that she should go away for a long time, and be punished for her despicable
actions… but maybe she should serve her
punishment in a mental institution instead of a prison?
Jillian was trying to get help for her mental problems, but with the way we make fun of and gawk at mental illness in this country (see Mayor Rob Ford & actress Amanda Bynes) how many people are afraid and embarrassed to get the help they need?
Autism parents are very often stressed out. Having a kid with autism is really hard and can really suck sometimes. If you’re kid is severely affected by autism your day to day stress levels will be even worse. If your kid is self injurious or injures others your stress levels can be thru the roof.
I can’t imagine what your stress levels would be like if your teenage severely autistic kid has a history of severely injuring you (and putting you in the hospital a few times) and outweighs you by 30 pounds (like Kelli Stapleton’s & Angie Robinson’s kids did).
All this to say that autism parenting can be a very stressful business. And because of that, the same way that the divorce rate is higher among autism parents, I can bet that the “snap rate” is higher among autism parents than among the general public…
But very often autsim parents put on a brave face and put our best foot forward, and present the sunshine & rainbows version of themselves to the world, especially to the Facebook world.
And when they do express how hard things are they’re made to feel like they should stop complaining and when asd parents say “autism sucks” they’re made to feel like they don’t love their kids…
So they just bite their lips and keep it all in, and smile for the outside world, and no one knows the stress (and sometimes violence) many autism parents are dealing with on a daily basis…
So I guess what I’m trying to say is that autism parents should be allowed to show the outside world how hard it all is without being made to feel like bad parents who don’t love their kids. And the outside world needs to see that reality more often to better understand what some autism parents are dealing with.
Maybe that would lower the “snap rate” a little?
I’ve gone off on way too many tangents. It’s time for me to bring this baby home.
My thing about all this is that I want to have my cake and eat it too…
— I want to put these moms away forever and lock away the key… and yet I want to be allowed to feel compassion for them…
— I want to say that Jillian did a horrible, disgusting, despicable thing to her beautiful son London (his pictures haunt my dreams) and deserves to be punished, and yet I hope this despicable act does shine a light on the issue of mental illness in this country…
— I want to say that what Angie did to her son Robert and what Kelli tried to do to her daughter Isabelle were cowardly & horrific acts, and that both moms should have done everything in their power to avoid getting to that place (kill themselves, drop their kids off to social services, etc) and yet I want the world to hear more about their severe autism stories, and hear about their hardships and the violence they endured.
I want to have my cake and eat it too! I want to feel it all! Anger & compassion…
Does that make me a monster?
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Written byFrank Campagna
I’m a 48 year old neurotypical dad with a 14 year old son with severe, non-verbal autism & epilepsy. I created this blog to rant about autism & epilepsy while celebrating my son who I affectionately call “the king” :-).