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(originally written & published on April 19, 2012)
This quick story comes courtesy of my wife, Autism Mommy.
After picking up Kyle from school yesterday she dragged him to this store called “Amazing Savings” to shop for favors for his birthday party.
Kyle knows this store well and the wife says he usually pretty well behaved there. Walks the store with her, doesnt need to be put in the cart.
And there’s one aisle with real cheapie small toys that he knows and loves and the wife reported that the king plopped himself on the floor and started playing with a few, which for him mainly means putting them in his mouth…. but whatever…
The wife lets him spend 5 minutes plopped on the floor and then picks the one toy that he seems to be liking he best and let’s him “carry” it around the store for the rest of their shopping trip.
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This keeps him occupied and happy and the wife can browse a bit easier…still saying “no mouth” like every 30 seconds, but still more manageable than without the toy.
They finish their shopping and head to the checkout, Kyle still clutching his new toy. After ringing everything up my wife takes the toy away from the king and says “ok buddy this has to stay here. we’re all done with this one.”
And Kyle proceeds to plop himself down in the checkout aisle and starts quickly getting
agitated & loud.
And mom says “wow ok, I guess you REALLY want that huh buddy. ok mommy will get it for you.”
And she bought it for him. And he stopped carrying on and got up and left the store happily.
And when the wife told me this story she was THRILLED and when I heard it I immediately got it and I was THRILLED!
Our son threw a tantrum!
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He knew what he wanted. He had a strong opinion about what he wanted and he got his point across clearly. There was no confusion as to why he was carrying on. He wanted that toy and let mom know!
For Kyle this is HUGE! He doesn’t normally have tantrums. It always seems that he doesn’t have strong opinions and sometimes goes with the flow almost too much.
Or if he does have tantrums it’s not clear to mom & dad as to why he’s crying or screaming or whatever. He’s not doing a good enough job at getting his point across. So usually we’d just chalk it up to your classic autism meltdown. “oh maybe this store is making him over-stimulated.”
But the fact that he had an honest to goodness definite slam dunk of a tantrum is awesome news to us.
And we hope to see a lot more of them! Bring us more tantrums! 🙂
Now that’s something that you probably rarely hear come out of a patents mouth! Even an autism parent!
As the wife always says “it’s funny where life takes you…”
🙂
THE END
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I so understand this. My guy is almost 7 and has PDD/NOS. He had meltdowns but never the tantrums associated with the terrible twos. Others thought it was great but, we knew after his diagnosis that it wasn't. He started the terrible two's at about 5 and a half. Not enjoyable but we were excited by it. Now I am having a hard time determining the difference sometimes. Your picture up there should help me.
Kristin
I love that story! A few years ago I was talking with a new mom whose child just started temper tantrums. I'm a very calm mother by nature, and it irks me when other parents freak out when their child was throwing temper tantrums, when really it's their chance to give their child a life lesson calmly, and guide their child through an important part of their development, I found myself appreciating the fact that their child was exhibiting behaviours that's normal for their development and it's only a bad thing when the parent doesn't keep ahead of their child and guide them through it. The fact that my son didn't go through that made me realize the importance of going through that stage, so necessary for their future decision making, people skills.
So awesome! I totally get it!
Congratulations on your first tantrum! I wish you a thousand more! : )
Don't you love these moments?! They're the best!
Only parents on this journey are likely to get the distinction and the huge significance!!! Yeeha for more tantrums in your house ;) [I think....]
So glad you had a real moment there and that he got his toy he really must have wanted. So many parents dread kids throwing a fit over a toy but it's a blessing when you have never had it. I'm still waiting on lil boy to have a tantrum over something other than bed time or me having to leave. My David has already been there, but most of the time he gets what he want without the fit.
Ah the things we celebrate:) Congratulations!!
That is WONDERFUL! SO happy for you!
WTG Kyle!