(originally written & published on January 15, 2014)
I've joked before about how the wife and I kid around sometimes and say things like "did you see that talking baby at the party earlier? she was all talking & stuff. she thinks she's hot sh-t..."
And I've written before about how I'm not sure how great a "typical parent" (read) I would've been.
But the past week it's really hit home how unfamiliar I am with typical kids and what typical kids are capable of. I mean Kyle is 10, and as y'all know completely non verbal. I guess I kinda know what a typical 10 year old would be like, but these babies & toddlers... they're so freaking advanced! I had no idea! LOL
There were 3 things that happened this week that made me think about all this...
1) I was at the diner with my mom yesterday morning before working after taking her for some medical tests. And there was a baby in the diner. Had to be maybe 9 months? (definitely under a year old) I walk in and he was all "da da da da da" and guess what
the kid was sitting with his dad! 9 freaking months!?! Holy crap! And then one of the waitress must have been related to the kid cuz she brought him around to all teh tables and he locked eyes with me... he had great eye contact... i think he even waved goodbye to one of the other customers... at 9 freaking months!
so he was a pre-speaker, great eye contact, pointing, and waving at 9 freaking months... TYPICAL PARENTS...don't take these things for granted people!
2) This YouTube video I guess has been around for about 6 months, but I just saw it for the first time last week. In it a 20 month old girl says "Hi daddy!" a bunch of times and then sings along with an old Elvis Presley song complete with lip syncing, hand gestures, and facial expressions... Watch it all the way through, it is absolutely adorable... a bit long, but adorable...
Adorable, right? But holy crap, she's only 20 months?!?! Can all 20 month olds do that? Or is she exceptional?! Either way, as cute as this video was,when I first saw it, I was watching it for its cute factor with one part of my brain, and in the other part of my brain, my jaw was on the floor that 20 month olds were capable of this...
Parents of typical kids...don't take these things for granted!!
3) This third one I need your help with,,,I need you to let me know if all typical parents do this, or if this dad was crazy.
Kyle and I are in the men's locker room at the Y. I'm helping Kyle get dressed (basically I'm dressing him) after swimming. I can hear another dad trying to coerce his 2 typical kids into getting dressed. Can't see them cuz they're in another row of lockers. The kids sound young (maybe 2 & 3?), but they seem to be following directions as far as I can hear...and he's trying to teach them "next time Billy towel dry your hair before putting your shirt on"
I hear that and already I'm thinking wow "2 year olds can follow 2 step directions?"
But then I hear the dad say "Billy you're done, walk out by the pool and look for mommy in the bleachers...if you don't see here come right back into the locker room..."
And then I see this little teeny tiny little boy run past me as he says "ok daddy". I think he was the younger son. Maybe 2 years old, 2 and a 1/2 tops.
And I'm thinking "This dad is sending his 2 year old back to the pool area by himself??"
Is that typical? Or is this dad crazy?!
I couldn't trust my 10 year old kid like that. First I'd be worried that he would just go out and jump in the pool with his clothes on... :) Seriously... And if he didn't do that, I couldn't trust him to follow all those directions "Go out by the pool. Find mom. If you don't find her come back." That's like a 3-4 step direction. And then there's the whole "stranger danger" thing...
The whole scenario just seemed dangerous to me...but again what do I know? I'm an autism/epilepsy parent. I hold my child's hand on the stairs and we literally never let him out of our sight when we are out somewhere.
If you're a typical parent, don't take for granted the fact that you can trust your kid to follow directions and the fact that you can let them out of your sight. But I still think 2-3 is too young, right? Or is that just cuz I'm out of touch with the typical world (or cuz I live in the NYC area and we worry about "stranger danger" more?)
Anyway...That's all I got. That's all I wanted to say...I'm gonna end the post here.
I didn't mean to make this a "woe is me" post. I didn't set out to write that and I hope it doesn't come across that way.
As many of you long time Autism Daddy followers know I've totally accepted the fact that my kid has autism/epilepsy and I've totally accepted the fact that my life is always gonna be different...but I'm still gonna always notice things... and these are 3 things that I noticed about the typical kid world this week...
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