(originally written & published on April 18, 2012)
So this week marks the first anniversary of my Autism Daddy Facebook Page and last week I had the honor of being listed as one of the Top 30 Autism Blogs on babble.com. Because of this my page has been getting a lot of attention lately and I'm picking up new followers every day, 6300+ on my FB page and rising. So I feel this is the perfect opportunity to take a step back and tell you something that I've been meaning to write for a long time.
Here it is...
I don't like reading things about autism that much. And I don't like talking about autism all that much. I think I am very different than most people with autism FB pages and blogs. Nothing against them, but I feel different than most of the other pages & blogs I read.
First let's dive into the other autism Facebook pages. Many of them are
AWESOME! And I've made a lot of great friends among them. But many seem like they are on FB a lot! Way more than me! They are reading other people's blogs and promoting other people's pages all day long. I could EASILY fall into that trap. When I first joined Facebook back in 2008 (as myself, not as AD) I was ADDICTED to it! I could easily spend hours on there! And in a small way it was kinda affecting me as a dad & husband....cutting into time that I should've been spending with my son & wife.
So I slowly weaned myself off of FB. Then when I started the Autism Daddy Facebook page in April 2011 I found myself getting addicted again.
I'll admit it. I'm vain. I always wanted a lot of followers so I promoted my page all over FB. But I was starting to get addicted again. I was posting often and reading other Autism Pages and it was starting to get to me. Reading about autism all the time was starting to get to me.
So now my method is to come on, post something witty and then get the hell off of FB and then check it later in the day. I come from the school of "always leave them wanting more."
And the reason I'm writing this today is because as my page and blog have gotten more popular I get questions & requests from people all the time. Some folks want me to promote their page, some folks want to ask me questions on my opinion on this med or that treatment. And I will tell you honestly that I have a very hard time keeping up with it all.
Even on other autism blogs I notice that the authors of the blog very often reply to every comment or get involved in every discussion thread. I don't do that for 2 reasons... (1) I don't feel like I have the time... and (2) even if I did have the time, I don't want to live & breathe autism every single minute of the day.
Now again, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with the other autism blogs or fb pages. They are just definitely more involved than I am. Many of them take on the "autism warrior" persona which is awesome! We need warriors out there! I always position the wife & me as "autism rock stars" and just like a rock star I'm more vain, and more selfish than the warriors, and I want more non-autism time than the warriors. :-) And because of that I bet that many of the other autism pages/blogs are probably a better support system than mine.
Anyway, basically the main reason I'm writing is that people ask me questions and ask advice from me all the time lately and I feel bad when I can't answer them all. So lately I barely answer any. I feel really bad about it...but I don't want to get sucked down the rabbit hole of being on FB all day and/or answering emails all day.
So if you asked me a question and I haven't responded, please forgive me. And if you've asked me to check out your page or to promote your page and I haven't please forgive me. I'm giving out all I want to give right now. I'm really trying to do what I said above. Get on, write something quick, post it, and then get off and get back to work (at work) or get back to my family, which sometimes means just getting back to watching tv on the couch with my wife.
And lately because of my babble.com "top 30" FAME people have been contacting me to read their autism books and review them on my site, or to review their products/ apps. And if this page/blog was my full time job I'd be into that, but since I have another 40 hour a week job, reading a book about autism is honestly the LAST THING I'd want to do with my free time. I would love to somehow make a few extra bucks from this page (besides you all clicking on the ads at the top from time to time :-), but I don't see any fortune rolling in anytime soon. So for now forgive me if I ignore your offers... but please feel free to keep sending them! Maybe one will peak my interest.
That's all I got. I just felt like putting that out there cuz my inbox is getting filled with unanswered messages. And some of them sound really important and I want to answer, but then I'll put it aside and never get back to it.
And then once in awhile someone will get lucky and just happen to hit me up on a day where I'm actively engaged in FB and I'll promote their page and their "likes" will go thru the roof... or they'll ask me a question at the right time that peaks my interest and I'll answer them right away.
But again between this blog and my AD FB page and my son and his school and his behavior therapy and music therapy and all his other after school activities I'm up to my eyeballs in autism and I've got very little room for anymore.
So again forgive me if it seems like I'm ignoring your stuff.
That is all...
Peace be with you...
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