(originally written & published on May 6, 2011)
My wife and I know each other since 1986 in High School. We were friends in HS and would see each other when we came home from college and we started dating after college in 1993 when she asked me out.
And I can honestly say that we are exactly the same today as we were in the beginning. What I mean by that is that we still like the same exact things that we liked back then.
We love tv, we love movies, we love live music, we love going out and staying out late... And we try to do all of these things as often as humanly possible.
I find that most of my old friends with typical kids have grown up more and their tastes have changed, but the wife and I stay the same. And we go out alot more than our friends with typical kids. Yes thats because we have amazing family who we can ask or pay (niece) to watch Kyle, but it's also because we need more breaks than your typical parents and we take them...often.
We find that most parents of typical kids or kids on the spectrum are not selfish enough. But we are selfish and get in our couple time and our alone time as necessary to make us better parents to Kyle. I'm on my company bowling team & I'm in a marathon running group. Those are currently my two outlets. The wife has several different mommy groups that she hangs with and there must be a moms night out and a mommy lunch at least 3-4 x a month. Those are the things we do individually to recharge our batteries. Then together we go to concerts (Weezer, Bon Jovi), out to dinner, out to plays in NYC, out late late to have a few beers and see a great bar band in a local dive bar.
Anyway I'm rambling but it just dawned on me why the wife and I are still very much the same. Kyle is currently kinda staying the same. While our friends with typical kids lives change as their kids mature,
we've been kinda raising a non-verbal 18month old for 7 years now. Our lives are kinda like the movie Groundhog Day, we're replaying the same day over and over.
So our ways of dealing with it is to still act like dorky 23 year olds. I mean the wife and i still curse like sailors. We are perfectly fine if Kyle's first words are MF-er. We still sometimes wait for Kyle to fall asleep and then we eat dinner on trays in front of the tv. We are big kids are heart. And we are both 41 years old and I honestly don't see that ever changing.
I picture me & the wife at 60 years old at the diner at 2am after a great night out, negotiating with a sitter (watching a 27 year old Kyle) to stay for an extra hour so we can get another brownie ala mode.
Ok so I havent planned that far ahead.... That'll be an expensive sitter in 2030 watching a 27 year old man... My plans for 2030 are for another more serious note...
Amyway that's all I got. Just wanted to tell you all how selfish the wife and I are and to implore all of you to get out and reward yourselves as often as you can!!
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